6 Ways To Raise Perfect Children: You Is Important

by Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] on April 23, 2012

in Being Mom,Family,Kiddos

I waffle back and forth between thinking I’m a good parent and thinking I’m the biggest failure parenting has ever seen.

Damn. Now I want a waffle.

One thing I’m not good at doing is follow through, which is why it’s been over 2 months since I started sharing my assvice series on how to raise perfect children. Clearly, I’m doing something right in raising good citizens because my girls are 6-and 7-years-old and haven’t yet been arrested.

I call that a WIN in parenting.

It’s about time I continued the “6 Ways To Raise Perfect Children” series on how to be the perfect parent, and today’s lesson is focused on being self-important.

Maybe not in the conceited kind of self-importance, but “important” in the way that your kids know that they matter in this ass-backward world.

I totally stole the phrase from the movie The Help, because even though I only read 1/2 of the book and didn’t really enjoy the movie, the mantra said by the character, Aibileen to her charge, Mae Mobley, is perfection.

“You is kind. You is smart. You is important.”

Getting past the improper grammar for the sake of historical verbiage accuracy, the message is clear: build your child’s self-esteem. Let them know they are important to your life. They may feel it in the way you treat them and their life, but they may not hear it. We spend a lot of time correcting our chidren’s behaviors, so making a point to let them know their importance in a way that is clear and without question can only help their own self worth.

But let’s not go overboard. No one likes a conceited little brat, so finding that fine line where you can convey your appreciation for your child’s presence in your life without giving them license to think they are better than everyone else is just that, fine.

There are so many other things in our kids’ lives that will teach them to hate parts of themselves, so setting them up with a baseline of importance can (hopefully) help their self-esteem.

6 Ways To Raise Perfect Children

1. Specific Praise

2. “You is important.”

3. Positive Correction

4. Let Them Eavesdrop

5. Believe Them (to a point)

6. Failure

Now that I’ve gone through the first two of the six ways to raise perfect children, and it only took me two months, I’m sure by the end of 2013, you’ll have all my tips to raise your own perfect children.

Good luck not screwing up your kids before I get around to finishing.

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1 Myrtle April 23, 2012 at 11:32 pm

Awesome. I can apply these to my children. Thanks that you’ve shared.
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2 Angie Uncovered April 23, 2012 at 11:44 pm

That was my favorite part of the movie. I cannot fathom how anyone can look at a child and not see hope for the future. Unfortunately, too many parents fail to see that the hope has to be nurtured and treated with kindness and love in order to flourish. Thank you for sharing this!
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3 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] April 24, 2012 at 10:36 am

Hope for the future is in those eyes.
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4 Liz April 24, 2012 at 2:33 am

I cannot fathom how anyone can look at a child and not see hope for the future. Great post.
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5 Jennifer April 24, 2012 at 4:51 am

I cannot fathom how anyone can look at a child and not see hope for the future. Thanks for sharing.
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6 julie April 24, 2012 at 6:12 am

This is so true. Thanks Angie your great tips, I will apply these to my own children.
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7 Krizza April 24, 2012 at 8:14 pm

As a parent, you can help your child develop concentration and focus skills to reach her full potential by introducing her to different ways to increase her attention and stimulate her imagination..
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8 Cindy April 25, 2012 at 1:39 pm

Well said. You Is Important. That was my favorite part of the book. It isn’t said enough. There are a lot of “you’re pretty”, “you’re cute”, “you’re a mischievous imp”, but we need to make sure we tell our kids, “You kind. You smart. You important.” Thanks for the reminder.


9 Lanie April 26, 2012 at 8:56 am

Thank you for the tips – great post. I need all the help I can get. Love the quote too.
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