A Father’s Guest Post About His Sick Daughter

Friday, October 2nd, 2009

Kevin of Always Home and Uncool has asked me to post this as part of his effort to raise awareness in the blogosphere of juvenile myositis, a rare autoimmune disease his daughter was diagnosed with on this day seven years ago. The day also happens to be his wife’s birthday.

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Our pediatrician admitted it early on.

The rash on our 2-year-old daughter’s cheeks, joints and legs was something he’d never seen before.

The next doctor wouldn’t admit to not knowing.

He rattled off the names of several skins conditions — none of them seemingly worth his time or bedside manner — then quickly prescribed antibiotics and showed us the door.

The third doctor admitted she didn’t know much.

The biopsy of the chunk of skin she had removed from our daughter’s knee showed signs of an “allergic reaction” even though we had ruled out every allergy source — obvious and otherwise — that we could.

The fourth doctor had barely closed the door behind her when, looking at the limp blonde cherub in my lap, she admitted she had seen this before. At least one too many times before.

She brought in a gaggle of med students. She pointed out each of the physical symptoms in our daughter:

The rash across her face and temples resembling the silhouette of a butterfly.

The purple-brown spots and smears, called heliotrope, on her eyelids.

The reddish alligator-like skin, known as Gottron papules, covering the knuckles of her hands.

The onset of crippling muscle weakness in her legs and upper body.

She then had an assistant bring in a handful of pages photocopied from an old medical textbook. She handed them to my wife, whose birthday it happened to be that day.

This was her gift — a diagnosis for her little girl.

That was seven years ago — Oct. 2, 2002 — the day our daughter was found to have juvenile dermatomyositis, one of a family of rare autoimmune diseases that can have debilitating and even fatal consequences when not treated quickly and effectively.

Our daughter’s first year with the disease consisted of surgical procedures, intravenous infusions, staph infections, pulmonary treatments and worry. Her muscles were too weak for her to walk or swallow solid food for several months. When not in the hospital, she sat on our living room couch, propped up by pillows so she wouldn’t tip over, as medicine or nourishment dripped from a bag into her body.

Our daughter, Thing 1, Megan, now age 9, remembers little of that today when she dances or sings or plays soccer. All that remain with her are scars, six to be exact, and the array of pills she takes twice a day to help keep the disease at bay.

What would have happened if it took us more than two months and four doctors before we lucked into someone who could piece all the symptoms together? I don’t know.

I do know that the fourth doctor, the one who brought in others to see our daughter’s condition so they could easily recognize it if they ever had the misfortune to be presented with it again, was a step toward making sure other parents also never have to find out.

That, too, is my purpose today.

It is also my birthday gift to my wife, My Love, Rhonda, for all you have done these past seven years to make others aware of juvenile myositis diseases and help find a cure for them once and for all.

To read more about children and families affected by juvenile myositis diseases, visit Cure JM Foundation at www.curejm.org.

To make a tax-deductible donation toward JM research, go to www.firstgiving.com/rhondaandkevinmckeever or www.curejm.com/team/donations.htm.

A Whole Lot of Nothing, OHmommy style

Saturday, June 13th, 2009

And now for a word from OHmommy.
She’s classy. She’s stylish. She’s polite.
She’s here because I’m none of those things, and she needed to be more like me and let her Bitch Flag fly.
I CAN NOT WAIT to meet her in July. I want to love on her and pet her head and tell her she’s wonderful. And maybe smooch on her a little bit.
Please, show her some love.

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Today marks the final countdown to my baby sister’s wedding.

Only 365 more days to go.

Naturally, I am in the wedding party. As well as my son and two daughters. All of us involved in her special day. Even months before getting engaged to her man I received emails entitled “What do you think about this dress?” and “Do you think having a reception at the gardens is classy enough?” and “Don’t you just LOVE these flower girl dresses?”

OMG. No, I do not. Not at $300 a pop, times two. I do not. I don’t like them at all, baby sis. I do not.

Last week she sent me an email with half a dozen images of flower girl head pieces. I just imagined my opinionated middle child and her tag-along-baby-sister on the day of the wedding, tossing the Martha Stewart inspired lilies of the valley fresh wreaths in the middle of the church isles, and stomping on them. And. So. I sent her an email.

“Hey. Love the look of a fresh wreath. I tried that on my flower girl. She hated it and never wore it and I wasted money on it. So. Take a look at this adorable headband on etsy just-in-case one of my girls has a tantrum. XOXO Pauline.”

Minutes later. My super cute pink phone vibrated and I read this….

“Thanks, but I’d really like to pick out what they wear. It will be part of the theme of the wedding I create. And hopefully you can help by trying to get them used to the idea beforehand and let them know. If just for the pictures even, Id be happy. I do appreciate your ideas though. They are good and I am ready to consider many things. Just ultimately I will decide what fits in with my vision best. Its a one in a life time thing/vision, right?”

I. Have. Not. Responded. Yet. Because…. OMG. My blood is boiling. Only 365 more days to go, yo!

Messin Up OHMommy’s Classy House

Thursday, July 17th, 2008

Hey there doods – I’m guest posting over at Classy Chaos, aka OHMommy’s blog. It’s all neat and clean over there, so I thought I’d add my mess to her perfection.

If you’re new here, WELCOME!
Read, peruse, and come back for more tomorrow, and the next day, and the next. It’s a little different over here from the perfection of Classy Chaos. There’s a stank around here that can’t be bleached out. And that’s how I roll.

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