Gay is OK

by Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] on October 1, 2010

in That's So Gay

Gay is OK

Really. It is.

If you use your Bible as your excuse for saying it is not OK, please re-learn what you were taught. The scriptures you quote are out of context. The language you read is historical and has alternate meanings to how we use the words today.

Really. It is.

Please teach your children that all people are OK. No matter your orientation (religious, cultural, sexual, political, physical), we must all show our children with our words and our actions that everyone is OK.

This is my cause.

I want my children and all children in my life to know that Gay is OK. I want them to know that ALL rainbows are beautiful.

I’m scared and devastated by the number of teenage suicides being reported just in the last week alone. My heart is broken for their mothers, father, siblings, family, friends.

Gay and lesbian people are 3-7 times more likely to attempt suicide.

Gay is OK.

Homosexuals are not an “other.”*

Gay is OK.

Really. It is.

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Some of my friends are talking about The Gay and/or The Bullying
(If you’d like to be included, please comment or email or Twitter me and I’ll link you up here.)

Late Enough

PGoodness

Overflowing Brain

Chibi Jeebs

Band Back Together

Morningside Mom

Liberal Granola

Corrine Renee

Loralee’s Looney Tunes

The Momsmith

Mum’s the Word

Parenting in Progress

Cornfield Queer (apparently he’s really cute. yes, he made me say that.)

The Sweetest

Mommy Wis(h)dom

The Disenchanted Uterus

Me and Mine

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I created a Facebook page to help spread the love and information. Please to be liking: http://facebook.com/GayIsReallyOK

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For more information about what is going on with our younger generation:

HRC: Human Rights Campaign

PFLAG: Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays

Soulforce – for Christians questioning the teachings of homosexuality in the Bible

Education.com – 10 ways parents can help stop bullying

*(quoted from) Watch For the Bible Tells Me SO

Watch this powerful message from Ellen Degeneres about ending teenage bullying

Bullied by Gays – Not really informational, but eye-opening

It Gets Better Project

Trevor Project

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{ 71 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Deb Rox October 1, 2010 at 1:23 pm

Making me cry, making me cry. Dammit! xoxo

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2 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] October 1, 2010 at 4:40 pm

stop! only gay people cry.

oh, wait.
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3 robin plemmons October 2, 2010 at 9:12 pm

i just totally loled really hard.

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4 Deb rox October 3, 2010 at 11:01 am

True, we set all of the cool trends! ;)

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5 Loralee October 3, 2010 at 8:13 pm

I already loved this post. Then I read this reply and inhaled my uvula. HA! Sunday it is, love. xo

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6 Aunt Becky October 1, 2010 at 1:39 pm

Love, love, love this.

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7 Scary Mommy October 1, 2010 at 1:44 pm

It’s so, so, so OK. And the recent events are so, so, so frightening.

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8 ArykaNoterika October 1, 2010 at 1:47 pm

Amazing. Please keep spreading this message. I do not even have words for what is going on lately. Actually, its not what is going on lately, it is what is being publicized lately because this happens way too often. I like to think that maybe we need to stop focusing on how horrible hate is and teach kids and each other how amazing love, ALL love is, and spend more time teaching them how to do it. By example.

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9 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] October 1, 2010 at 4:42 pm

this is one thing i can truly say i’m setting a good example by for my kids.

cleaning? no.

hooray for gay? yes.

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10 Kristin October 1, 2010 at 1:49 pm

PERFECT!! Love it.

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11 Mommy Boots October 1, 2010 at 1:54 pm

I. Heart. This. Post.
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12 Becca M October 1, 2010 at 1:58 pm

Amen. I plan to write a blog post later tonight/this weekend about this subject. Do you mind me sharing a link to this post?

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13 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] October 1, 2010 at 2:33 pm

of course! please do!

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14 Jess October 1, 2010 at 2:02 pm

Thank you for writing this post. This has become an epidemic and we need to create a more accepting society. Thanks for putting into words what I (and I hope) many other people have been feeling.

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15 Heather October 1, 2010 at 2:24 pm

Two thumbs up! Great post!

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16 pgoodness October 1, 2010 at 2:28 pm

Fabulous post. Thank you.

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17 Barbara October 1, 2010 at 2:29 pm

I couldn’t agree more with this post.
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18 toywithme October 1, 2010 at 2:43 pm

Best post of the day!
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19 Charisse October 1, 2010 at 2:55 pm

I am right there with you. It is OK. Really. Gays are not minorities strkicken with leprosy. I promise. I am just as “normal” as the next person. I am simply grief-stricken by the posts in the news lately about the suicides. It is heartbreaking.

Thank you for this post.

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20 NotAMeanGirl October 1, 2010 at 3:17 pm

Well said. The rash of suicides this week is just alarming. How do we teach them without making too much of an issue of it though? That’s the problem I keep running into.

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21 pgoodness October 1, 2010 at 3:53 pm

Making what too much of an issue? I don’t know what you mean….elaborate, please?

You mean about talking about how gay is ok? Easy, you tell them to be accepting of everyone, pop through the examples – religion, skin, etc – how people are all people, no matter what. You do it in the same way you told about strangers and calling 911 – you choke down your feelings, approach it matter of factly and be ready for questions. :)
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22 nic @mybottlesup October 1, 2010 at 4:04 pm

yes yes and yes.
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23 Lisa October 1, 2010 at 4:11 pm

Oh, I wish this was required reading. I wish that everyone felt the same way.
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24 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] October 1, 2010 at 4:49 pm

YES. yes it should be. because I wrote it.

neener.

and thanks :)

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25 Mary October 1, 2010 at 4:26 pm

This might be a reason to teach your kids that gay is OK that you never thought of. Gay people often realize their sexual identity when they are teen-agers. If you raise your child to be accepting of others, he/she will not hesitate to inform you if they are gay and will be all the stronger for it.

Thank you for these links. I’m sure you are helping a lot of people.

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26 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] October 2, 2010 at 1:42 pm

thanks – i hope so :)

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27 Tara R. October 1, 2010 at 4:54 pm

It breaks my heart when I hear about these kids and young adults driven to suicide. Breaks. My. Heart.

These young people are so close in age to my own children. I cannot imagine what their parents are going through.
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28 Cass October 1, 2010 at 5:03 pm

Love lovity love this. Keep on keepin’ on!

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29 krystal October 1, 2010 at 5:31 pm

I’ve been a reader for a little while but have never commented. I just needed to say thank you for this post! It made me tear up at the emotions behind the whole subject and also reminded me that even though my kids are really young its never too early to teach them, Gay is OK.

THANK YOU!
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30 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] October 2, 2010 at 1:43 pm

it’s a requirement to comment.

neener.

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31 alimartell October 1, 2010 at 6:06 pm

YES
Just
YES.
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32 Tina October 1, 2010 at 8:44 pm

Rock on with your bad self! Love it!
Best,
Tina

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33 Mommy on the Spot October 1, 2010 at 9:52 pm

Beautifully written!

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34 pgoodness October 1, 2010 at 10:29 pm

Hey, mine is mostly just a bunch of links (including back to you!) but you’re welcome to add me to the linky!

http://pgoodness.com/2010/10/01/gay/

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35 anne nahm October 1, 2010 at 10:30 pm

I never understood why nobody ever thought Ruth and Naomi in the Bible were gay. All that “Wither thou goest, I go too,” shows up in a million wedding ceremonies as a declaration of true love, but nobody really talks about how it was said from one woman to another.

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36 That Gay Kid in High School October 1, 2010 at 11:58 pm

It’s really sad that the first kid’s claim to fame is that he started a trend that others felt the need to follow. The fact that anyone feels the need to kill themself because he or she thinks the world would be better without them is ludicrous. It’s even sadder that these kids had no one in their lives to make them feel important. I’m fortunate to have found out that I have — and apparently had — a strong support system of friends and family who accept me for who I am despite what I am. I’m even more fortunate that I didn’t take that opportunity to find out away from myself. Besides, didn’t you know? Gay is the new black!

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37 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] October 2, 2010 at 1:40 pm

i’m still waiting for fat to be the new black.

:)

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38 Zoeyjane October 2, 2010 at 11:27 pm

Can we take out the “despite what I am” part? You, everyone, deserves support and love. Period.
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39 ThePeachy1 October 2, 2010 at 12:18 am

My 2 oldest children were victims of bullying. my daughter only in for a brief moment in a middle school situation with a team of girls that mounted to a racial situation called “cracker day”. She bore tennis shoe marks on her neck and her mouth and hair was spit in every day for a week, while her clothes were ripped. Zero tolerance and security officers do nothing. However pissed off parents telling the principal their daughter will be fully supported in defending herself should she not be protected did. Our son, I can barely speak of it. 3 suicide attempts, teachers participated. There was no safe haven for him anywhere. His disabilities and social awkwardness made him a target. He survived school, barely. But I am not sure what the real world will treat him like. Our youngest, the super hero, the protector, the popular kid that stops the bullies, by saying hey man, not cool, or, sure you can sit here, pull up a chair. I would like to think he will stay this way, and that in some small way he can prevent others from feeling the pain his older siblings suffered before him. You don’t have to be gay to be bullied, just different.

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40 Absence of Alternatives October 2, 2010 at 8:37 am

How many young people have to deliberately take their lives because they did not think there was any alternative before people will stop treating “differences” as if they were some diseases? I am frustrated to no end. And there ARE people who are not affected by these tragedies. It sickens me.

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41 Wicked Shawn October 2, 2010 at 2:18 pm

This is wonderful. Wonderful. By the way, I might think this is wonderful. Just sayin’.
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42 Harriet October 2, 2010 at 2:24 pm

Gay is definatley okay! And shame on anyone who says it isn’t!
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43 Caroline aka Morningside Mom October 2, 2010 at 3:47 pm

YES THANK YOU FOR POSTING THIS AND YOU ROCK!!! I need to get a post together. I am so so OVER hate. Just totally and completely done with it.
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44 Lisa October 2, 2010 at 5:35 pm

It’s sad that we even have to have this discussion. I can’t understand why people teach hate. Thank you for sharing us with this today – and certainly support HRC.

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45 The Sweetest October 2, 2010 at 7:29 pm

We watched For the Bible Tells Me So, and the whole time we were wishing we could make our parents sit down and watch it. Watch it with open hearts and minds. And I wish I could pass this post along to my mother, since she feels she needs to pass along every Christian-right-wing-liberalismiskillingJesus-gaysaredangerous propaganda she receives. I delete them all. And I never send her any of my “messages” in return. Because I know she will not receive them with an open mind. That she will think I am misguided. And I have “forgotten” what the Bible says. Sigh.
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46 Cort (Modern Super Momma) October 2, 2010 at 8:06 pm

You have a fantastic number of people that read your site every day. I’m proud to be a reader – and to read that you use your site not only to chronicle the crazy life you lead, but to support this cause. It is one close to my heart, and I love that you’ve taken the time to spread the message. Thank you!
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47 Zoeyjane October 2, 2010 at 11:30 pm

I seriously thank *someone* everyday for the fact that where we live, in our neighbourhood, this post isn’t necessary. Gay isn’t even a question here, to my kid, to anyone else that lives around these 20-30 blocks. Love is love. That’s all we all need.
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48 Dead Cow Girl October 3, 2010 at 12:34 am

I’ve posted a badge on my site, even though I swore I would be badge free. But this is one that is near and dear to my heart. In my line of work I deal with a lot of guilt stemming from sexual orientation and it’s so very sad. I’ve seen married men who have spent their entire lives covering up “the real them.”

The more we talk about this, HOPEFULLY the more accepting teenagers (and their parents) will be. I’m so very VERY happy for TV shows like Modern Family who push boundaries and address the family dynamics of accepting The Gays. And kudo’s to them for last weeks episode – The Kiss. I think it may have been the first time two men have kissed on Prime Time. And they did it in a wonderfully subdued way.

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49 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] October 3, 2010 at 11:12 am

hip hip, hooorGAY!

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50 Grumble Girl October 3, 2010 at 11:04 am

You done good, girl. It’s the RIGHT way to be, dammit! Anyone who can’t se this is soulless. For reals.
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51 pcoschick October 3, 2010 at 12:38 pm

So awesome! Love it & bravo to you for writing this great post

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52 Amy October 3, 2010 at 7:54 pm

Yes, YES Gay IS OK. I am bookmarking this post forever. And eventually will write my own when my life calms down (I promise!). Thank you thank you thank you.
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53 Angela October 3, 2010 at 11:58 pm

Perfection.
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54 mamikaze October 4, 2010 at 1:24 pm

Thanks, Angie! you inspired me
http://mamikaze.com/dont-let-the-bullies-win/
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55 Nic October 4, 2010 at 6:55 pm

Gay is ok and thank you for posting acceptance.

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56 Maria October 4, 2010 at 11:14 pm

Augh. *HUG*
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57 Mom101 October 4, 2010 at 11:32 pm

You are okay yourself lady.

Gah, doesn’t it kill you to have to write this? Imagine a post called Blacks are okay?

One step at a time.
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58 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] October 4, 2010 at 11:40 pm

And 60 years ago… “Women are OK.”

We’ve come a long way, but there’s so much more to be done.

And we will do it all with MARGARITAS and HUNKY MAN-BEASTS!

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59 Corina October 5, 2010 at 12:35 am

This news, these stories of suicide brought me back to high school when I heard a very true, very heartbreaking story that changed me forever. I made it a mission then to change the face of our school. Today, thanks to your reminder, I resume that commitment. Because none of these young people should have died in vain. May we all learn, step up and do something to affect a positive change. Thank you for your part.

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60 MrsLaLa October 5, 2010 at 7:19 pm

Thank you for this post. I. Love. It.

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61 Amy October 5, 2010 at 10:02 pm

Great post Angie. It restored my faith in humanity a little bit!

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62 wendy October 6, 2010 at 8:09 pm

I remember having a huge fight with my parents when I was in school about gay being ok. Thankfully, they came around years ago. I hope by the time my kids are adults, this kind of BS will be something they aren’t even able to wrap their heads around, the same way I can’t wrap my head around segregation and race wars from my parents generation. And holy crap I know a lot of people here! Hey y’all! :D

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63 kadield October 8, 2010 at 2:10 pm

Yes. I am super sexy. :D

Thanks for the link up baby. /lick

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64 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] October 8, 2010 at 4:50 pm

you’re a lesbian now?

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65 KYouell October 8, 2010 at 4:41 pm

Apparently I need to write my own post because this stuff is coming at me from all directions lately. I got tweeted at by strangers yesterday because I support anti-bullying. I don’t have friends or family that are gay and out (in the closet I have no idea, I have no gaydar), but to me this is something I have to stand up and be vocal about. If you are going to tell LGBT people that they aren’t good enough and can’t get married, then next you are going to tell my son with Down syndrome that he’s not good enough and can’t get married. I’m standing shoulder-to-shoulder with mamas of LGBT people and with LGBT people themselves to fight for LGBT rights because I’m not going to wait for Them to come for my son before I speak up.

Yeah, so that’s a summary of the post I’m gonna write someday. Today I’m eating cereal in bed because it’s my birthday. :-P
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66 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] October 8, 2010 at 4:45 pm

happy birthday!

and yes, unfortunately, if they will want to stop gays from marrying, why wouldn’t they stop there? it’s maddening.

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67 BLOGitse October 13, 2010 at 3:35 pm

Gay is OK – thanks for spreading this important message!
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68 Unknown Mami October 14, 2010 at 12:24 am

One love: universal love, respect, and compassion expressed by all people for all people, regardless of race, creed, color, sexual orientation, or you name it. One love!

Thank you for the great post.

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69 Tracy DeLuca October 16, 2010 at 7:54 pm

This post is awesome. Please read my daughter’s recent blog post for another take on this whole situation….. http://thedelusional.blogspot.com/2010/10/kicking-down-door.html
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70 aims November 9, 2010 at 9:34 pm

how the HELL did i JUST find this?!?!?! i LOVE it, and it’s goin up on my site!!!! in fact…. i once represented the gay/straight club at my college… and yeah i’m straight but who gives a fuk right? LOVE IT!!! yer awesome!!

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71 vivobetting.net February 17, 2014 at 9:13 pm

You’re so cool! I don’t think I’ve read anything like this before. So good to find somebody with some original thoughts on this subject. Thanks for starting this up

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