In an Awesome twist of irony, it’s currently Be Nice on the Internet Week.
Surprisingly, this wasn’t a Hallmark-created holiday, but rather a movement started by Real Simple magazine. I may not use their redefined acronyms (W.T.F. = Why That’s Fabulous; F.U. = Friendly Uprising; M.Y.O.B. = Make Your Own Bliss), but I do like the idea behind their message.
As a superfan and superuser of snark, I appreciate dark humor and general LOLs, sometimes at the expense of others. Sometimes, but never with malice on purpose. I have this other blog, We Know Awesome, where I share funny, irreverent, and satirical things found on the interweb. There are times when I may have hurt the feelings of someone who may be the subject of a post, and I always always remove anything that I later learn is hurtful.
I’m far from a saint, though I have been shopping around for stylish schmatta to replace my brand-name clothes. I figure the more Mother Teresa-like I look, the easier it will be for my sainthood to be crowned. I do get a crown for being recognized as a saint, right? Otherwise, what’s the point?
By now you’re asking, “Where’s the irony, Pangie? Get to the point already.”
Yesterday, I received this not-so-nice email through the contact form on We Know Awesome:
I did the culprit a favor and fixed her* grammar. (*I assume "her" based on lady-instinct.)
We read about bullying and general meanness of folks on the internet. Sometimes we accidentally on purpose see the comments left on news articles and news blogs. But I rarely, if ever, see the hateful, anonymous emails sent to other people.
I’m breaking the tradition of hiding the hate.
I will show you the emails I receive that are sent anonymously or sent with a real name attached. If I know for certain who the person is sending a not-so-nice note, I’ll credit them for their words. I don’t want to be accused of stealing now, do I?
I know for 97% certainty the name and website of the person who sent the above email. But because I have that 3% doubt, I can’t put her name on it. I don’t know her personally, and I don’t believe we’ve met online or offline, but she sure as heck doesn’t like me.
Feeding the trolls is one thing; we don’t feed the trolls unless we’re feeling especially spunky.
Sending nearly-anonymous, hate-filled, baseless emails is not being nice. Like most women, I have a cunt, but calling me one is just silly-mean.
And wishing I get hit by a truck? I mean, really. Come up with something more creative next time you send someone like me a crazy-pants email. If you need other ideas on how to wish someone dead, watch a horror film or read the comments on a news blog. Those people have some original ways to wish people dead.
I wish to do favors for those in need of my help. Editing and fixing the grammar of the trolls and haters is my Tourette’s. Like Mother Teresa, I’m a giver. Except I don’t give to the poor; I give to the poorly educated.
Mother Teresa photo used with Creative Commons License
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Clearly this person was dropped on her head as a child. Or her Mommy didnt hug her enough. I think you’re funny as hell, (and since mine is the only opinion that really matters) so screw her!
I like you.
If you have a 97 percent level of confidence that you know who this person is, I would encourage you to go ahead and contact that person and approach the conversation openly. I had a big hater on my last blog and I engaged with her, only to discover she was the parent of one of my daughter’s classmates. Rather than banter with her over the email (it’s easier to scream at a computer screen than a real person), I met her for a drink at a local bar. I let her raise her concerns to my face. In exchange, she got to hear my POV on the post. Some of her concerns were valid and I walked away a better person. She walked away understanding the value of blogging and started one of her own.
Even if she denies the email came from her, you’re the better person for having come forward with a sincere and open heart. It also reminds her that, while we’re all entitled to our opinions, we are also obligated to stand behind those opinions and back them up.
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If it is who I think it is, the issues was minor and resolved. I sent her an email asking that she contact me in a more professional manner in the future.
It’s really just the mindset that sending that kind of email is OK that gets my panties in a twist.
I’m glad to learn it’s been resolved, but you were right to get your knickers in a twist. Trolls should be extinguished and not tolerated.
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Wow… some people are just ridiculous. It always seems to be the poorly educated who do it to. I mean,
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Hit the reply button accidentally…. anyway, what I was going to say was, if someone was attacking you, you’d think that the smartest way to go about it was to make sure that you had nothing to attack back. She just left herself easy prey with all the terrible grammar.
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It’s the poorly educated for whom we should feel sorry.
Hot damn you’re awesome. The bit that I don’t get about all of this is if they don’t like you or don’t like your content, why the hell are they reading you? And worse, taking time to comment/send messages. Seems sort of kindergarten crush to me…
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Maybe next she’ll come over and punch me then run away.
All I’m gonna say is that I still think you are awesome sauce on toast. Topped with Nutella. And anyone who doesn’t agree is misinformed.
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Word.
Also, I have Nutella with peanut butter on an Eggo every morning. Are you watching me?
Um, obvi. And your toes look amazing. Might want to change those pajama pants though. I think something might be stuck to the leg.
Well isn’t that just delightful. Sometimes I just have to question some people’s sanity. On an up note…I came by for a visit because I wanted to show my husband pictures of manatees from the place I’m now insisting we go to and we see this
You so have to go see the manatees. Go soon before it gets too cold to be outside and too busy there.
Oh how I love this. If only for the Mother Theresa credit at the bottom.
Today, I too got my first nasty anonymous troll comment in oh…forever. Maybe they all just reallly hate Real Simple?
Thankfully, you and I and people like us are here to bring up the level of intelligence on the interwebs. Otherwise, it would be a free-for-all of insults and anonymous attacks. Oh wait… it’s already like that on the news blogs.
Except we’re SO much better than THOSE people.
Like Mother Effing Teresa.
I have a (locally) high profile job & every now & then I get emails like this that are sent thru our station website & directly to 3(!!) people that supervise over me. It becomes like a TPS report nightmare for a few days after that..The one thing we have learned to go with? If it’s anonymous or a fake email it goes straight in the trash. If you aren’t bad ass enough to back up the trash you spew you aren’t worth our time. I can’t tell you how many times I have pissed off someone by something I have said or done in real life (not even on the air) and bitches send emails to my bosses calling for my termination!! Umm…No you don’t!! Anonymous= wuss.
This is cracking me up, because I have a SIL, who sends some pretty outrageous, angry, hateful email from time to time, but her grammar and spelling are so poor, that all the hate is lost on me and all I want to do is edit it and correct her errors!
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Hi Angie. I just happened across your blog this morning and I’m really enjoying your “grammar” posts. I have the same issues with the ways people butcher our language. However, in your corrections to the above e-mail, 2 of the 3 grammar corrections are incorrect. Just sayin’. Keep up the good fight.
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