My kid is a major nerd. #SheIsOK

by Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] on October 5, 2010

in Being Mom,Family,Kiddos,Pictures

And I couldn’t be prouder.

In our family, nerd, geek, dork, brainiac, are all terms of endearment.

We OWN the terms that describe us. It’s WHO WE ARE.

I think that by using the words as terms of endearment now, when jackhole bully kids try to use them as words against my daughter to attempt to hurt her, it won’t sting as much.

My kid is different from typical kids. If she continues on the way she’s started her life (and I hope she will), she’ll be a-typical throughout her entire school years. She’ll have special meetings and special paperwork. She acts differently than most kids. She likes things that typical kids could care less about. She does things in different ways. She says things in different ways.

I didn’t do anything any differently to make her the way that she is. She just IS who she IS.

Her shirt says, "Nerdy Chicks Rule"

Except now, we are doing our best to ingrain in her brain that to be who she is, is OK. To be a nerd is OK. To be a geek is OK.

SHE IS OK.

I know it’s coming. I know I can’t stop all kids from teasing her for who she is and what she does. But I CAN help her love who she is. And THAT will help prepare her to stand up to the bullies.

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1 Hockeymandad(The Husband) October 5, 2010 at 11:16 am

I am amazed by her every single day. I only wish I could slow down the growing process.
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2 Louise Edington October 5, 2010 at 11:26 am

From one parent of a nerd to another – I whole heartedly agree with you. My older daughter is definitely different in most wonderful ways. A lot of ‘normal’ people cannot cope with that difference but we have always celebrated it and she actually enjoys it – she’s almost 13 now – and I hope it stays that way.
It does hurt at times like when a ‘friend’ told her she’d never have a boyfriend because she’s too wierd. But guess who got asked on her first ‘date’ the following week right under the nose of that ‘friend’?
You keep right on celebrating your daughters differences – who wants to be dull and the same as everyone else anyway.
Louise Edington
International Au pair Finder

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3 lceel October 5, 2010 at 11:28 am

She is adorable. It’s too bad that someday some bully is going to make her cry. Grrrrrrr.

That said, our #3 son is a NERD. Totally. But he was lucky, going through early schooling. The two biggest and toughest kids in his class lived right down the street from us, and the boys used to play together all the time. So when it came to school, bullies soon found out who his friends were … if you know what I mean. So, either that – or teach her karate.
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4 Habbala October 5, 2010 at 11:45 am

I was a super geek growing up… and I never got made fun of.. I don’t think? I was in classes with smart kids. My friends were just as nerdy and middle school was so much easier because we were convinced we had it right and everyone else had it wrong (They didn’t even KNOW what Monty Python was!)
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5 Little Miss Sunshine State October 5, 2010 at 11:45 am

Iceel isn’t kidding about the martial arts. My son was the “sensitive” kid and the bullies knew how to push his buttons. It pretty much came to an end when he was in 5th grade and his teacher gave kids an opportunity to show the class something they were really passionate about. The respect level went up quite a few notches when my son did a demo on the sword form he was practicing to get to his KungFu black sash. He pretty much sailed through the rest of middle school and high school with no teasing.

Anna will develop a confidence that will keep the bullies from picking on her (especially if she plays hockey!). Besides, smart girls ROCK!

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6 Tara R. October 5, 2010 at 12:20 pm

My daughter is a nerd too. The best compliment she ever got was when a teacher told her she was the most normal gifted student she knew.

There will always be other kids who are jealous of how smart your Nerdy Chick is, how well liked she is by her teachers, but she’ll find her groove. She’ll find kids who like her exactly like she is, and then she’ll earn a full academic scholarship to a highly competitive university while the haters are flipping burgers.
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7 Zoeyjane October 5, 2010 at 2:06 pm

I have a book suggestion, for her to read to you/P at night: Stargirl. So awesomely great at teaching about self-acceptance and making ‘different’ attractive. Also? Kind of a ‘grown up kid’ book, so there’s a little bit of romance, in a totally not-even-PG way. EXCITEMENT, INTRIGUE, A HIPPY GIRL – what’s not to love?
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8 Mommy on the Spot October 5, 2010 at 3:19 pm

Beautifully written post. This post brings tears to my eyes. I know what it was like to be bullied at school for being different. I don’t know what’s in store for my 4 year old girl, but I totally feel the same way you do about making sure her self-esteem is intact. Kids can be so mean, and I don’t want her pining her self-worth on what others think of her. I see that some parents suggest martial arts. I think that’s awesome! We decided to enroll her in yoga. She loves it!

And where did you get that T-shirt? It is awesome!

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9 Susan @ Sassafrassery October 5, 2010 at 4:14 pm

Good for you, Mommy. Even now, though my daughter is only three years old, I am determined to celebrate and ensure she appreciates, all the wonderfulness of her individuality, too.
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10 TheNextMartha October 5, 2010 at 5:23 pm

Yes! Excellent post.

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11 The Girls other Grandma October 6, 2010 at 7:58 am

Just remember what the ‘bullies’ call nerds later in life…..”Yes Boss!” or thank you Dr.!

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