My response to the BlogHer ’10 response posts, post.

by Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] on August 17, 2010

in Blogging,Observations

It’s been over a week (yes, I did just check the calendar to make sure my math was correct) since BlogHer ’10 ended, and the posts and discussions are still rolling in. To be honest, I didn’t have enough forethought to plan a summary post, and I didn’t think most of my readers (YOU Awesome people) would want to hear all about the debauchery and learning stuff if you didn’t go. Which, HELLO? You need to go. Forget about the money or the family obligations or the other myriad of excuses. You should go.


This is my response to the BlogHer ’10 response posts.

There are 1 of 2, or maybe 2 of 2, reasons I don’t see the negative. Either I’m not smart enough to realize it’s happening, or my head is firmly affixed above the clouds and I thinks WAY too much about the good that I’m seeing.

OR, there’s a 3rd, and much more likely, reason: that I’m so narcissistic and worried about my own anxiety issues that I’m stuck thinking about me and only me and how I’m going to make it from my room to the next location without making an ass out of myself by accidentally ignoring someone I like or tripping on my sore feet and splatting my face on the floor.

Either way…

I don’t see the negative at the conferences. I’m constantly scanning the throngs of people, seeking out someone I know or someone I wanted to meet. And really, can we all have our blog header and/or Twitter avatar and/or Twitter name plastered to our foreheads so I know who you are? I’m looking for the people I WANT to meet and not what I don’t want to see.

I don’t think I’m making any sense.

This is not new.

(See: photo)

So when I read the post BlogHer posts about how blogging is changing (true fact) and how “this” shouldn’t have happened “there” and how private parties suck (no they don’t) and how people are assholes (they are), I think to my wee-brain self,

“Self, were we at the same place these people were? How did we miss all of this?”

And then I remind myself that we do what we want, we take nuggets of Awesome away from different situations, and we really aren’t negatively affected by the weirdness.

The “we” meaning me, myself, and I. We’re crazy like that.

OR, my final theory on all of the negativity: 2500 people who all spend 360 days a year alone in our houses typing away at our keyboards are suddenly out of our element, thrust into a 24/7 need-to-be-social environment, and when we return back home, we’re all in a state of debauchery recovery for at least 2 weeks.

Or maybe that’s just me.

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1 Colleen - Mommy Always Wins August 17, 2010 at 11:29 am

Some people just take themselves waaaay too seriously and just come off like assholes when trying to sound intellectual about shit. All I know is that I met really brilliant people OUTSIDE of the stupid sessions, drank tequila shots and laughed my ass off about things only 12-year-olds find funny. And it was the best conference EVER.
An Awesome post on Colleen – Mommy Always Wins´s blog … A day in the life


2 Miss Grace August 17, 2010 at 11:33 am

I’m too busy dressing like a hooker to absorb any negativity whatsoever.
Just me?
An Awesome post on Miss Grace´s blog … You are who you choose to be- or whatever On writing- and writers- and whatnot


3 Poppy August 17, 2010 at 11:34 am

I don’t see anything wrong with private parties. Anyone not invited to a private party should have either tried harder or made their own party. *shrug*
An Awesome post on Poppy´s blog … Thankfully Darth Vader doesn’t care if my toilet doesn’t work


4 Nona August 17, 2010 at 11:35 am

It was my first BlogHer and won’t be my last because I had a great time. Events like this are what you make of it. If you decide to have fun and meet people, you will. Some people will like you, some won’t. That’s life.

And it’s been almost two weeks and I’ve yet to finish a blog post about BlogHer because my life is a little spinny right now. Debauchery will do that to me.
An Awesome post on Nona´s blog … Reasons why I suck


5 ThePeachy1 August 17, 2010 at 11:36 am

I didn’t go. But I think life is what you chose to make of it. This applies to everything, if someone chooses to focus on being insulted or singled out or god forbid not popular ( cause this is totally high school right?) then that kind of sucks for them. Everyone has the ability to chose what they give power to and how they perceive and remember things. Apparently, you are just Peachy. xo


6 Mishi August 17, 2010 at 11:38 am

It’s all about me. LOL TOTALLY!
An Awesome post on Mishi´s blog … The Story of BlogHer Part II


7 Caroline August 17, 2010 at 11:45 am

Totally hear you on this one. Sure I had my own issues I was trying to work out about MY identity as a blogger (so you weren’t the only one wrapped up in their own anxiety, and whoa yeah, blogging is changing) but BlogHer as a whole was fantastic. Or from my perspective it was. With my friends whom I couldn’t wait to see and don’t get to see all year expect this one time so I’m going to see them dammit even if it seems kind of exclusivey. The parties were fun but I could really give a crap that I only had one official invite. I had plenty of party to recover from for a whole week afterwards, thank you very much. I loved everyone I saw, it seemed a good time was had by all, and I am just so damn grateful I could even work it out to get there in the first place. Great post.
An Awesome post on Caroline´s blog … BlogHer Part two- Questions and Answers


8 cindy w August 17, 2010 at 11:53 am

You know what? I didn’t encounter any assholes either. Unless you count standing in the security line at LaGuardia, because WHOA NELLY, airports make some people *cranky*.

But yeah, I think some people are maybe looking to be offended, and if the offense isn’t there, they’ll either create an imaginary one or magnify a teeny-tiny molehill into a mountain.

Peeps like us are too busy enjoying the people we love (and only get to see once a year) to bother with all that drama crap.


9 Aunt Becky August 17, 2010 at 12:06 pm

The only person that sucked was the one who kept jumping out at me and yelling, ‘I KNOW YOU’ and then when I’d say, “HI!” she’d be all, “I wasn’t talking to you. And she sucked because I’m still confused.


10 Allison Zapata August 17, 2010 at 2:39 pm

hahahhahahahahahhahhaha i forgot about that!
An Awesome post on Allison Zapata´s blog … BlogHer 2010- New York City- Part 1 – In Pictures


11 The Husband August 17, 2010 at 12:11 pm

I think people take away with them exactly what they wanted to take away. If it’s the negative aspect, they went in with the wrong attitude and wanted to leave with more.

I left with new friends. I left after having a great time. That’s what I wanted to do.

Yes, I got to go to some private parties thanks to you and no, I didn’t even get to go to all of them. But then again, when a blogger hosts a BBQ at their house are they obligated to invite the entire blogging community? No. It’s a “private” party because some organization outside of “BlogHer” is hosting it. Sorry, but I’m not inviting every blogger I know to my kids birthday party, nor would I expect every blogger I know to invite me to theirs.

I have been to many technical conferences and there were LOADS of private parties I didn’t get invited to. I wasn’t upset by it, I just accepted that I wasn’t a vendor or a member/affiliated of the group hosting the event.

I don’t understand how people don’t get that.
An Awesome post on The Husband´s blog … Get Your Nerd On


12 AmazingGreis August 17, 2010 at 12:20 pm

I’m with you!!! Though I wasn’t there this year, I remember last year. I had a fabulous, mostly drama free time, and totally missed out on allt he negative. Blogher is all about seeing my friends and enjoying my time with them, the petty crap stays away from me!
An Awesome post on AmazingGreis´s blog … Still slacking…


13 Baran March 8, 2014 at 12:01 am

following you for just over a year. very difficult to conmemt from my phone, so don’t often enough.BUT i read and, girl! you bless my socks off.grateful for your voice here.and i still read that “for the tired and weary” post you graciously shared to begin the year. super encouraged. we are in a terribly tough season.praise jesus for sweet, timely YOU. and your insane talent is the jam. and i’m pretty sure i love you:)press on, crystal! xo


14 Momo Fali August 17, 2010 at 12:28 pm

I see that things are changing and that’s okay. I wasn’t upset that there were private parties. I was upset that all of my friends were scattered all around the city instead of loving on me.


15 Avitable August 17, 2010 at 12:37 pm

I think your last theory is probably partially accurate. I think that it’s also easier to ignore things when it’s on the Internet, but if it’s thrust in your face in a public setting, it can be more frustrating to deal with. I also think that people have to be reminded that many bloggers are social fucking retards, and this isn’t prevalent until they’re in a social setting.

I had a blast and can’t think of a single negative moment all weekend, but I heard about people getting snubbed or treated in a shitty manner because they weren’t someone “known”, and that makes me sad. Etiquette should exist everywhere.

Regardless, I’m going back next year. And I’m going to pay attention to see if I see anyone acting shitty. And next year? I’ll call them on it.
An Awesome post on Avitable´s blog … The death of Cathy


16 OHmommy August 17, 2010 at 12:48 pm

I always miss the drama. Le sigh.
An Awesome post on OHmommy´s blog … I probably need a Notary Public for a post like this


17 bellawriter August 17, 2010 at 12:51 pm

You’re invited to my private party…in my pants. Bwa ha ha ha!


18 angelica August 17, 2010 at 1:36 pm

I have to say that as much as I love blogging, the idea of forced socialization for a week is as close as it gets to hell for me. which is why I don’t go. Fortunately I have a lot of imaginary friends, so I’ll be ok.

In any case I think you are absolutely right. you get what you make of it. I think a lot of people just think it’s funnier or a better story if you complain
An Awesome post on angelica´s blog … parenthood is nothing but a series of days


19 Nic August 17, 2010 at 1:49 pm

good for you not letting the negative few ruin you good time! The others should be jealous of that not the lack of invite to a party.


20 ally August 17, 2010 at 2:05 pm

I agree. I had a great time, because it was what I wanted it to be. I saw the people I was hoping to see and met a ton that I had no idea existed. I forged friendships and gave hugs. I will be there next year (IF I can get my pansy ass on a plane), and I hope for the same experience.


21 thenextmartha August 17, 2010 at 2:16 pm

I’m pretty much clueless to the whole blogging community (and hierarchy for that matter) and maybe that’s why I had so much fun. I “knew” a few people that I wanted to meet and did. I was so glad that they turned out to be awesome. I just had to laugh when people wanted to talk about my blog and I would say “Well, I’m more of a tweeter.” (Insert shock and horror face here that I would go to a blogging conference as a tweeter) Overall, I loved it.


22 Ashley August 17, 2010 at 2:38 pm

i have no clue what you’re talking about, but i agree with you…and i loves that picture of you!
An Awesome post on Ashley´s blog … the vacation


23 Nancy [Fear and Parenting in Las Vegas] August 17, 2010 at 3:29 pm

I wasn’t there this year, but I’m inclined to agree with Patrick’s comment. How you approach anything will determine what you get out of it. If you’re a person who approaches life looking for lint balls and stray hairs, you’ll find everything that went wrong about the conference. If you’re a person that’s there to see people and have a good time? You’ll find it in spades.


24 Kellyology August 17, 2010 at 4:27 pm

I’m going with your final theory. Last year I didn’t have a good time, but I was coming off of a horrible personal experience and it flowed into the conference. This year I was back to my old self, had a great attitude going into it, prepared myself for intense, excessive talking to people face to face stimulation, and guess what?

Had a fantastic time.

I didn’t meet anybody I hated. Sure I liked some more than others, & sure a few surprised me, but ummm…isn’t that the way it is when you meet all people in all situations? I don’t know. I think people have gotten too sensitive these days about these social occasions. Drives me insane. I mean didn’t their parents ever teach them the not-everyone-is-going-to-like-you-and-you’re-not-going-to-like-everybody-lesson? Insecure twits.


Maybe I’m the bitch they’re talking about.
An Awesome post on Kellyology´s blog … Rose-Colored Glasses Couldnt Cover the Yellow


25 Loukia August 17, 2010 at 11:20 pm

This was my first Blogher – and I loved every single second. I wish I had more time to talk to people, BUT I had a great time. I talked to everyone I wanted to talk to. I loved everyone I met. And I can’t wait for next year! Nothing negative from me!


26 Sugar Jones August 17, 2010 at 11:24 pm

From the first BlogHer I ever went to until now, I have had the same reaction to the negative posts… “Where was I?” Because honestly, the only feelings I ever come away with are, “That was just all kinds of amazing!” AND “Why can’t I live in a village called BlogHer?”

It comes down to the glass half empty or half full thing. Mine? Was OVERFLOWIN!
An Awesome post on Sugar Jones´s blog … I Thought You Knew


27 sarah August 17, 2010 at 11:24 pm

Just like on Twitter, I think there are people who crave The Drama. So they make it. On the computer, at the conference. Meh.

I was overwhelmed by my first BlogHer experience last year in Chicago, but I didn’t see that, ultimately, as a negative, & certainly not as a negative that was anyone else’s fault.

I was way more interested in what shoes people were wearing than who’s ego was being bruised by whom.
An Awesome post on sarah´s blog … The Accidental Tourist


28 tina August 18, 2010 at 1:33 am

I am with you. Thinking back… there may have been some negativity, but I stayed out of it and was just so THRILLED to find people I get to see once a year. I just didn’t have time to get embroiled in it. (plus, I had no idea it was going on in the first place…probably for the same reason as you.}

Currently, I am dying of the the Crud or the Plague or something and can’t spend energy on more of the silliness. For me, I go to BlogHer to see people I love and make it what I want to make it.
Blind eye to everything else.


29 andrea August 18, 2010 at 12:22 pm

i want to be you.

actually, i kind of want to be *anyone* who got to go to blogher ’10.

that’s the green eyed bitch in me…

kids be damned! imma going next year…my government job can suck it.

<3 andrea (aka "princess andy"…the NOT gay man. sorry to disappoint;)


30 Aimee August 18, 2010 at 12:51 pm

I think what often got my panties on a bunch was bloggers wh aren’t really known but think they are huge, acting flat out bitchy. Some wench looked at my tag in the elevator and said “i have no clue who you are but I am sure you know me” I hadn’t nor do I want to nor did I assume anyone would know my lil ol blog. This type of “i am king shit Blogger” was annoying, when the actual “big” Blogger’s freaken sweet ass pie. I sadly and wrongly never read ain’t Becky-that chick COOL and Sweet as ever. She didn’t look at me any less. Bitches man…they can truly piss in your cheerios.


31 Aimee August 18, 2010 at 12:53 pm

That should be Aunt Becky and my smart phone sucks ass when guessing my words
An Awesome post on Aimee´s blog … AWESOME


32 briya August 18, 2010 at 9:06 pm

Yeah. If there was drama of some sort it completely passed me by. I was too busy stalking bloggers I wanted to meet, drinking to much and having assloads of fun. 😉

See you next year, right?
An Awesome post on briya´s blog … Blogher10 Recapor How to Drive Housekeeping Crazy You decide


33 Alexandra August 21, 2010 at 7:17 pm

Had to finally come here and meet you b/c your tweets crack me up everytime. I think you are fantastic. This blog may be all that, but your tweets are like the 2nd coming.



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