Please Refer To The Asterisk Over My Head

by Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] on January 15, 2012

in All About Me,Friends,That's So Gay

Remembering things is hard.

From this point forward, I’m going to be living with an asterisk over my head to remind me and everyone else that you’re going to have to remind me again.

I have opinions on things, and it’s my lack of forethought that gets me into situations where I have to back-peddle on how I’ve voiced those opinions.

I hear you thinking, “We want details, Pangie. No more of this ‘speaking in generalities’ shit. What the crap are you talking about, specifically?”

To make a potentially longer story shorter, this is not an essay only about Tebow or football or politics or religion. I’m using this particular example as a way to explain what I’m talking about.

I read an article by Rick Reilly about how Tim Tebow is a happy-go-lucky, Bible-thumping philanthropist, and because of this, he’s a good guy. I agree. Tebow is a good guy for all the philanthropisting he does for people in need.


Tebow is an out and proud supporter of Focus on the Family. THOSE people who campaign against the rights of all people. THAT group of extremists that paid a crap-ton of money for advertising time during the 2011 Super Bowl to spread their anti-choice message in which Tim Tebow and his mom starred.

When I was professing my newly-grown Teboner on Twitter and Facebook yesterday, I forgot about the gays and my convictions.

I know.

My friend, Heather, thankfully brought me back down from my stupidity and reminded me that Tebow isn’t my new favorite person. He’s far from it.

That’s when I asked myself, “Self, can you respect someone with diametrically different beliefs as your own when those beliefs are ones for which you feel so strongly? Can someone be both respected for the good that they do, yet be criticized for the hurtful message they spread?”

My inability to readily recall all the facts about a person has finally come around to bite me in my ass. I actually forgot that Tebow was anti-gay.

I need an asterisk.

I need a reminder to be reminded of the details before I comment on things.

I need you people to remind me when I say something stupid that is the opposite of what I’ve said before or what I believe in.

I know, it’s dumb. But it’s true.

Thank you, Heather, for the reminder that Gay is OK and just because someone does something very good for someone else, it does not mean I should support them.

Feel free to remind me when I need a reminder again. I’m sure it will happen more than once more.

Please refer to my asterisk.

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1 Meghan January 15, 2012 at 5:53 pm

This is an interesting discussion, because YES, Tim Tebow does some really nice things for people, and yes, he should be commended for that.

HOWEVER, that doesn’t mean that he’s infallible. He openly discriminates against an entire group of people and doesn’t think that they deserve the same rights as the rest of us.

If he were openly racist and was arguing that African Americans shouldn’t be allowed to go to marry, would we let it slide? Why is it “okay” that he feels that way about the LGBT community?


He does great things for sick and suffering people. Awesome. But if a gay teen who had been attacked and beaten by classmates applied to his program, would he do the same for them? I don’t think so. I mean, he refused to take part in the “It Gets Better” video series, so I doubt he’s going to stand up for gay teens who are being bullied.

And that’s not cool.
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2 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] January 16, 2012 at 1:14 pm

You’re so on.


3 Amy - Hamlet's Mistress January 15, 2012 at 9:48 pm

Can someone be both respected for the good that they do, yet be criticized for the hurtful message they spread?

The answer to this question is YES. Because no one’s perfect.
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4 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] January 16, 2012 at 1:16 pm

It doesn’t mean I have to like him tho.


5 Hamlets mistress January 16, 2012 at 1:32 pm

True and I don’t like him either. But that wasn’t the question. 🙂 I’m just being objective.
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6 Ally January 18, 2012 at 7:23 pm

I’ll give him this – he’s got people talking. And talking is a good thing, because often we realize that people are not what we thought they were. And obviously brings up important subjects that SHOULD be talked about. I don’t have to like him either.
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