Punched In The Gay Gut Again

by Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] on April 19, 2012

in Observations,That's So Gay

Gay is OKMy rage is not controlled enough to properly express my hurt.

I physically hurt for the people who are so close-minded, so mean, so inappropriate.

But I hurt more for the people at whom the hate is directed.

Again with The Gays.

We still don’t eat at Chick-Fil-A because of their choice to support the anti-gay organization, Focus On The Family, among others. As much as I love a delicious CFA chicken sandwich with waffle fries and CFA sauce (drooling), I just can’t give my money to an organization that outright supports hate. My girls know why we no longer go there and miss it, so they have plans to have their grandmothers take them. Them are some sneaky children I’m raising.

This week, my good friend and superstar, Brittany Gibbons, was asked to have blog post she wrote about her decision to not allow her son to be in the Boy Scouts run in The Huffington Post. While it’s a huge deal to be recognized for her accomplishments as a writer, I’m more proud of her that she’s speaking for so many of us who refuse to allow for bigoted belief systems to affect our children.

But when Jude asked to join Boy Scouts, my heart hurt… because I knew we might have to tell him no. In fact, in my head, I was already screaming no, no way, absolutely not, not happening. But, I have this almost-6-year-old beautiful boy in front of me, who’s bursting at the seams to see his friends at meetings and get a free mini catapult for joining.

The reminder that Boy Scouts of America is a bigoted organization who blatantly discriminates members and leaders based solely on their sexual orientation punched me in the gut again today.

Ohio resident Jennifer Tyrrell,… was forced to resign last week as den leader of her son’s Tiger Scout chapter due to her sexual orientation.

Parents of fellow den cubs are supporting Ms. Tyrrell and her past charitable successes as their den mother. They have been very vocal in their community and with BSA, urging them to reconsider the release of their den mother. GLAAD has stepped up to increase awareness in support of Ms. Tyrrell and is asking for signatures on a petition to request that the Boy Scouts of America to reconsider their exclusivity of LBGTQ people.

image via GLAAD

This was done without remorse and without apology from BSA. In fact, they confirmed their antiquated, unfounded, unscientific beliefs with this statement to WTOV9:

“We do not grant membership to individuals who are opened or avowed homosexuals,” said Bob Drury. Drury is the scout executive for the Ohio River Valley.
Drury said there was no decision to be made, the policy is very clear.
“The mission of the Boy Scouts of America is to develop character and leadership skills and the youth of today to become leaders of tomorrow. And anything that distracts from that mission, distracts from what our program is.”

After all this time, after all the strides made, after all the positive things that have happened for gay people, groups like BSA have the gall to come out in favor of blatant discrimination.

When I first read the statements released, my first thought was to wonder why they would come clean with their policies.

They shouldn’t be so bold as to assert their belief system of bigotry! They should have hidden behind some other reasoning for forcing this mother out of Boy Scouts leadership. 

But then I quickly changed my thinking into being grateful to the BSA for being honest. In their honesty, I know what they as an organization believe and what they truly stand behind: bigotry, hate, miseducation.

I thank GOD, Baby Jeesus, and Oprah every day that I don’t have boys. Never mind the stinky boy smells, perpetual MMA fighting, pee-splashed toilets, and awkward teen years; I’m glad I don’t have boys because I don’t have to break their hearts when I tell them they can’t belong to a group that perpetuates hate.

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1 Bill Dameron April 19, 2012 at 2:47 pm

Thank you Angie. Imagine that you could have boys that are the targets of the hate, discrimination and hurt and not just a member of a group that perpetuates that. Those boys hearts are broken everyday and not just once when they are told they cannot be a part of that group. I was one of those broken hearted boys.

So again, I say thank you for standing up for what is right. It’s not always easy, but what is the easiest, is not always right.
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2 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] April 19, 2012 at 10:32 pm

I’m so sorry you were hurt by ignorance. And thanks for your thanks!
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3 Cindy ~ The Reedster Speaks April 19, 2012 at 2:50 pm

Great post – my heart aches for these boys, my gay friends, family members, and colleagues. But I also have a feeling our girls will find plenty of groups that break their hearts too by refusing to fully accept them.

In NC? Be sure to vote AGAINST Amendment 1 to write LGBT hate into our state constitution.
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4 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] April 19, 2012 at 10:33 pm

It’s clear insanity that government officials are moving to put discrimination in our Constitutions.
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5 JustinRHoffman April 19, 2012 at 3:35 pm

I’m just saying the boy scout uniform looks like something a gay man would put on his dog. If that doesn’t say something about the type of people running the BSA I don’t know what does.

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6 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] April 19, 2012 at 10:34 pm

Two words: shorty shorts.
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7 Nuala Reilly April 19, 2012 at 4:20 pm

I posted about this the other day as well. Not the boyscouts, but in Gay bashing.
And, ironically, the next day a prominent Gay rights activist in Halifax Nova Scotia was murdered.

Bigots blow.
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8 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] April 19, 2012 at 10:35 pm

Terribly upsetting.
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9 Kelly C April 19, 2012 at 5:09 pm

I love this post. Bigotry and hate are disgusting.

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10 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] April 19, 2012 at 10:48 pm

Yes, they are.
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11 Val Payne April 19, 2012 at 5:51 pm

One of the first conversations The Hub and I had after finding out pre-natal Gus was a boy had to do with The Boy Scouts. I was so happy that Jason was adamant that his son not join a group if unapologetic bigots. My Hub may not be outspoken about Marriage Equality or well,anything (he’s pretty mild mannered and interacting in public is uncomfortable for him) but he is passionate about our children growing up in a world where their differences are celebrated, where nobody’s rights are violated because of who they love or what they believe.

And that is why he is mine and y’all can’t have him.

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12 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] April 19, 2012 at 10:49 pm

Even though we have our convictions, making the decisions to stick by those convictions can be super hard.
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13 Amy April 20, 2012 at 6:53 am

I didn’t know about Chik Filet. Awesome. Now I have a really good excuse to not eat there instead of just vomiting at the thought of it! People don’t like it when I vomit on them. Thanks!
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14 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] April 20, 2012 at 3:44 pm

You should really use my advice for everything.
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15 Vicky April 20, 2012 at 10:47 am

At Bonneville Elementary there is a big group of boy scouts. They hold their meetings in the cafeteria there. When my son first heard about it, he asked me what it was and gave the impression that he was wanting to join. So, in 1st grade, I thought, I’m not gonna sugar coat it. I told him the truth. I told him that he knows how his step-dad and I love each other, well some kids have 2 moms and some kids have 2 dads, and they love each other just like me and his step dad. And there is nothing wrong with it. Then I broke the news that the Boy Scouts are against people that love the same sex and that as a family we don’t participate in those things. I don’t know how much he understood, but he didn’t argue my answer. All he said was, how can someone hate love.

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16 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] April 20, 2012 at 3:45 pm

You have a good kid.
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17 Ally April 21, 2012 at 5:28 pm

The only thing “distracting” from their program goals is that they have, once again, made the media for their bigotry.

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