My rage is not controlled enough to properly express my hurt.
I physically hurt for the people who are so close-minded, so mean, so inappropriate.
But I hurt more for the people at whom the hate is directed.
Again with The Gays.
We still don’t eat at Chick-Fil-A because of their choice to support the anti-gay organization, Focus On The Family, among others. As much as I love a delicious CFA chicken sandwich with waffle fries and CFA sauce (drooling), I just can’t give my money to an organization that outright supports hate. My girls know why we no longer go there and miss it, so they have plans to have their grandmothers take them. Them are some sneaky children I’m raising.
This week, my good friend and superstar, Brittany Gibbons, was asked to have blog post she wrote about her decision to not allow her son to be in the Boy Scouts run in The Huffington Post. While it’s a huge deal to be recognized for her accomplishments as a writer, I’m more proud of her that she’s speaking for so many of us who refuse to allow for bigoted belief systems to affect our children.
But when Jude asked to join Boy Scouts, my heart hurt… because I knew we might have to tell him no. In fact, in my head, I was already screaming no, no way, absolutely not, not happening. But, I have this almost-6-year-old beautiful boy in front of me, who’s bursting at the seams to see his friends at meetings and get a free mini catapult for joining.
The reminder that Boy Scouts of America is a bigoted organization who blatantly discriminates members and leaders based solely on their sexual orientation punched me in the gut again today.
Ohio resident Jennifer Tyrrell,… was forced to resign last week as den leader of her son’s Tiger Scout chapter due to her sexual orientation.
Parents of fellow den cubs are supporting Ms. Tyrrell and her past charitable successes as their den mother. They have been very vocal in their community and with BSA, urging them to reconsider the release of their den mother. GLAAD has stepped up to increase awareness in support of Ms. Tyrrell and is asking for signatures on a petition to request that the Boy Scouts of America to reconsider their exclusivity of LBGTQ people.
image via GLAAD
This was done without remorse and without apology from BSA. In fact, they confirmed their antiquated, unfounded, unscientific beliefs with this statement to WTOV9:
“We do not grant membership to individuals who are opened or avowed homosexuals,” said Bob Drury. Drury is the scout executive for the Ohio River Valley.
Drury said there was no decision to be made, the policy is very clear.
“The mission of the Boy Scouts of America is to develop character and leadership skills and the youth of today to become leaders of tomorrow. And anything that distracts from that mission, distracts from what our program is.”
After all this time, after all the strides made, after all the positive things that have happened for gay people, groups like BSA have the gall to come out in favor of blatant discrimination.
When I first read the statements released, my first thought was to wonder why they would come clean with their policies.
They shouldn’t be so bold as to assert their belief system of bigotry! They should have hidden behind some other reasoning for forcing this mother out of Boy Scouts leadership.
But then I quickly changed my thinking into being grateful to the BSA for being honest. In their honesty, I know what they as an organization believe and what they truly stand behind: bigotry, hate, miseducation.
I thank GOD, Baby Jeesus, and Oprah every day that I don’t have boys. Never mind the stinky boy smells, perpetual MMA fighting, pee-splashed toilets, and awkward teen years; I’m glad I don’t have boys because I don’t have to break their hearts when I tell them they can’t belong to a group that perpetuates hate.