Raising These Kidlets is Hard Work

by Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] on November 17, 2008

in Being Mom,Family,Kiddos

My girls are only 4 1/2 and almost 3. Both are shy and are totally not the kids who will go with anyone or will play with just any kid they see on the playground.

Sometimes it makes me a little jealous that the other kids will play and talk and do anything without the whole deal we go through, but I know that’s just my girls and Anna has special social needs.Anna & Claire

My girls stick together like Chang and Eng. I love that they are so close, and I know will it eventually backfire on me when they’re plotting the takeover.

For now, they do pretty much everything together and barely fight. They have the same friends, the same toys, and dress alike (not the SAME – alike – gah).

We went to the neighborhood park yesterday, and right away, Anna saw a friend of hers from her school. They immediately locked eyes with the “I see you – I recoginze you’re here – No verbal communication needed – Let’s go slide” look. If you have toddlers/pre-schoolers, you know the look.

Anna went off with her friend, and in the 3 seconds it took them to disappear into the tunnel, Claire realized Anna had a friend that wasn’t also hers.

And that was the first time I saw my Bear jealous of her sister and left out of playing with her. Her face immediately dropped and tears welled up in her eyes. And in that second, every feeling I’ve ever had of being left out of anything all rushed in.

She came running over to me to find her place to belong. I brought her closer and tighter into my arms and reassured her that Anna was her sister and she loves her. And I love her. And her daddy loves her.

DAMN. Raising these kidlets is hard work.

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1 lceel November 17, 2008 at 2:41 pm

The good thing is she turned to you to find the comfort she needed. She didn’t internalize it.

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2 Miss Britt November 17, 2008 at 2:44 pm

Oh oh ouch. I hate that welling. Hate.

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3 Honeybell November 17, 2008 at 2:45 pm

Now I’M sad!

By the way-I’m jealous of parents who have shy children, and parents that have children that like each other!

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4 Hockeyman November 17, 2008 at 3:00 pm

Lucky her Dad was there to take her back into the playground and play with her, even if she still didn’t fully want to. 😉

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5 Tara R. November 17, 2008 at 3:23 pm

Awww… that made me a little sad.

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6 Amy November 17, 2008 at 3:41 pm

Oh poor Bear!!! I feel for her!!

My girls are the ones that go around the playground demanding that everyone play with them!!! Sometimes I wish they were shy!!

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7 Kim November 17, 2008 at 4:51 pm

Damn hormones.. I am sitting here with tears in my eyes.. your girls=too sweet..

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8 Shamelessly Sassy November 17, 2008 at 4:52 pm

I just have the one. Until she realized she could approach children to play with her, she would just pick random kids on the playground and follow them. It was sort of amusing in a super sad, I-need-a-sibling sort of way.

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9 Angie's Favourite Sister November 17, 2008 at 6:55 pm

Hum…the younger sister wanting to play with the older sister and her friends… And you felt for the younger sister… hummmmmm…. Strange twist of fate. Now you know how I felt when we were little!

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10 Little Miss Sunshine State November 17, 2008 at 8:57 pm

My sister is 11 and 1/2 months younger than I am. We NEVER clicked as kids. Never played together. Never had the same friends. YEARS after we graduated from high school, people were AMAZED to find out we were sisters.

We grew up, were each others Maids of Honor and Godmothers to each others sons. But we are still not close. It kind of makes me sad.

I hope your girls stay close.

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11 Carrie November 17, 2008 at 10:09 pm

Oh, this reminds me of when my boys (who are 18 months apart) were little! Even though at that age, they were enrolled in the same preschool class (that was *fun* for the checkbook) – they had some friends that were solely theirs, and not their brothers. And that sad little face, oh I remember it.

Good news is that they will always be sisters (and mine will be brothers) and your siblings are with you longer than anyone! I know that doesn’t help cheer up your little one, perhaps an extra lollipop would?

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12 Heather November 17, 2008 at 11:30 pm

That is so SAD. But I have faith that they will remain best friends. My sister and I are eleven YEARS apart. We are the best of friends.

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13 OHmommy November 18, 2008 at 12:14 am

Awwww… you are right it is so hard.

Having sisters is a great lesson. They both will learn many wonderful things.

And what the quack is wrong w/dressing the sisters in matching outfits. GAH. I am sooo not friends with you anymore because you said it was ADORABLE.

Quack you.

kindaof

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14 Momo Fali November 18, 2008 at 6:01 pm

Gulp. I am not crying! It’s just an eyelash!

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15 Red Lotus Mama November 19, 2008 at 1:45 am

Awwwww … that made my heart melt. So much sisterly love. My daughter is an only child. She has developed a best friend at school. They have been inseparable for almost 2 years. As they are growing up they are each growing their individual personalities and interests. There are some days her friend wants to play with other kids and those days it breaks my daughter’s heart. It does make me sad to see her like this, but it also warms my heart knowing my daughter’s capability to love unconditionally. You are a lucky woman to be blessed with such darling kids.

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16 Maggie's Mind November 19, 2008 at 1:18 pm

You made me get all teary-eyed, dammit. It is super sweet that they are so close, though. That is really awesome.

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17 BOSSY November 21, 2008 at 2:53 pm

That is he sound of Bossy hitting the floor — hard — after fainting away at that photo! Unbelievable!

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