Like “art imitates life,” so shall “blog imitate life.”
As you know, I’m normally the most hilarious blog on the internets to read, but as it’s been a very difficult few days and will continue on through the weekend, I feel that you, my loyal tens of readers, will stick around and help me through. And throw some hilarity my way. It’s OK to be funny in your comments. Please. I need it.
To everyone who’s thought about my family and given your condolences over the past 2 days, I am TRULY grateful. Your kind words and thoughts really have helped me through this. It’s amazing how the “imaginary friends” I have out in Blog World have helped. Again, thank you.
There really isn’t an update on how or why my cousin died. We do know that it wasn’t any “normal” condition or reason for an otherwise healthy pregnant woman (like an aneurysm or heart attack), but she was healthy and had just been to the doctor a few days earlier for a checkup. It may take up to 2 months to get a real answer or not even get an definitive answer at all which is very frustrating.
We do know her 3yo son was home with her, and he thought Mommy was sleeping. He told his dad, “Mommy just won’t wake up.” She had been dead for a few hours by the time her husband found her at home.
Christy and Josie (the baby) will be cremated together and their ashes scattered at the beach in S. Carolina.
My sister and I are helping as well as a team of other family and friends around their house. Today, Jackie and I had to return the baby’s crib linens which we were happy to do, yet so surreal. Luckily the customer service rep didn’t ask questions.
One thing I’ve learned from this is to make sure your kids, if they are old enough, learn how to dial 911 and WHY to dial 911. A few weeks ago, I started teaching my 3yo to dial emergency if she can’t get me up or if I am hurt. This may or may not have saved Christy, but it can’t hurt to teach your children the basics.
So, for the Haiku, I’ll do my best to let you know a little piece of Christy.
Pure True Yellow Life
Gabriel and Josephine
Loving Passionate
Trying to think
of the best way to describe
a person I knew
Together family
was when we chatted children
enough to know PURE
I’m not a good haiku-er, but I thought I’d try. Thinking back on Christy and what we lost has really made me think more about my core trueness. She was the most true person I know. Never pretentious. Always caring. She cared for our family deeply. Thinking back I can’t think of a single time that she said a negative word about anyone. Really. It’s hard to do for other people I know (myself included), but for her, pure and true.
Again, thanks for reading and helping me through. I tried to bring the funny back yesterday, but that flopped. I’ll try, try again in a few days. For now, it’s helping to live in the moment of grief.
It’s not all doom and gloom here - we are a very sarcastic, funny family, so we’re keeping it light. But with the funeral Saturday, sadness is hanging over us all.
Your kind, uplifting, funny words mean so much.
~Angie
Beautiful Haiku, Ang. Lovely way to remember her. I’m always impressed by people who manage not to be negative, as I have a hard time with that every day (mostly, I fail, cause I’m truly Biznatch). Sad to lose a light like that.
To make you smile, I give you this:
My Favorite Turd Joke From Way-Back
Asspennies (another old one I relish)
Thinking of you. Keep keepin’ it real, babe.
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Lord, that’s horrible. So sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.
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Hi Angie, I just found your blog from Dawn’s. I’m so very sorry to hear about your cousin. She sounds like a lovely, fun, sweet, caring mother. It is a tragedy that she is gone. The mystery of her death does remind me of an article I read years ago about aortic tears (like what John Ritter died of). It said that they aren’t as rare as they are believed to be and that if a woman has one, it is 50% more likely to rupture when she is pregnant. It might be something to investigate to see if it could be why your cousin died. Here’s a link to the article I read.
http://www.aorticdissection.com/WSJ_com%20-%20Medical%20Ignorance%20Contributes%20to%20Toll%20From%20Aortic%20Illness.mht
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Your family has been in my thoughts since your post. That is so scary about your nephew being home alone with her. That is one of my secret fears - something happening to me and the baby wandering the house.
I’ll be thinking of you and your family tomorrow, especially her husband.
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Again, I’m so sorry to hear about your cousin and her baby.
You bring up a good point. I should teach my 3-yr-old about dialing 911. Its crazy to think he’s old enough for those types of lessons already!
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You did wonderful with the Haiku. I will continue to pray for your family and for your cousin’s little boy.
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I can’t add anything funny, I just wanted to say you and your family have been in my thoughts. My daughter knows how to dial 911, but I worry she wouldn’t remember to do it in an emergency. Wonderful Haiku.
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It is a beautiful Ku Angie.. Great advice on the 911. Not to sound repeatitive but your in my thoughts and prayers.
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oh honey, I can’t imagine. how horrible for you and your family. I am thinking of you. I want to make you laugh but the picture in my mind of the horrific story took the humour right out of me.
But here… I’ll tell you a joke that I got in my email the other day and it made me laugh.
For all of us who are married, were married, wish you were married, or wish you weren’t married, this is something to smile about the next time you open a bottle of wine:
Sally was driving home from one of her business trips in Northern Arizona when she saw an elderly Navajo woman walking on the side of the road.
As the trip was a long and quiet one, she stopped the car and asked the Navajo woman if she would like a ride.
With a silent nod of thanks, the woman got into the car. Resuming the journey, Sally tried in vain to make a bit of small talk with the Navajo woman. The old woman just sat silently, looking intently at everything she saw, studying every little detail, until she noticed a brown bag on the seat next to Sally.
“What’s in the bag?” asked the old woman.
Sally looked down at the brown bag and said, “It’s a bottle of wine.I got it for my husband.”
The Navajo woman was silent for another moment or two. Then speaking with the quiet wisdom of an elder, she said, “Good trade.”
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oh sweet girl.
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It’s so good of you to help. If there’s anything I learned from my recent experience, it’s that having helpful family around is the best thing.
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I’m glad you posted a little update, as I’ve been wondering and worrying especially about her son and husband. I am so sorry for your whole family’s loss.
I’m not sure I can put funny into this comment, but my most recent post has some very silly pictures that might cheer you up.
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I’m glad you posted a little update, as I’ve been wondering and worrying especially about her son and husband. I am so sorry for your whole family’s loss.
I’m not sure I can put funny into this comment, but my most recent post has some very silly pictures that might put a smile on your face for a moment.
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I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with your family and especially Christy’s husband and child. I sincerely hope that you all are able to find some closure and a reason for what happened. God bless you all.
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Sorry to hear about your loss. It’s always sad when they are there one minute, or one part of the day, and gone not long after. I had a friend who died—I talked to her that morning, and by midafternoon she had died in a car accident. She and I and my ex best friend had just gotten back to talking, too.
Your family, and especially her husband and child, are in my prayers. Take care of yourselves!
What a beautiful tribute you wrote for your cousin. I’ve been sending out good thoughts to you all week/weekend, and will continue to do so.
I’m not imaginary, no matter how hard you try to make me imaginary. My friendship for you is real. (((HUGS)))
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