Sometimes we have to do things we don’t want to do (so Mama can get a priceless picture).

by Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] on September 20, 2010

in Family,Pictures

It’s not just a line from the hot secretary at Sterling Cooper Draper Price said to troubled (and future pregnant teen) Sally Draper, but now it’s a line from my current life with my 6-year-old.

For the last 6 years, we’ve learned how to encourage her and bribe her and coax her into doing what we needed her to do. From finally taking off an un-needed band-aid to being potty trained at almost 4 years old, we’ve tip-toed around her anxiety disorder for fear of scaring her for life.

She new about the Try Hockey Lessons FOR FREE Day (aka Sunday Day of Fun at the Ice Skating Rink with Daddy) for the week approaching, and she was excited to have her daddy help her learn to ice skate. We arrived at the rink, her 4-year-old sister decided she was going to cry and not skate, and I helped Anna get her gear on.

As happy as I was at the prospect of seeing her skate with her daddy for the first time, I was just as shocked to see her calmly resign to the fact that her daddy wouldn’t be allowed to help her skate.

There were coaches available on the ice to help the beginners, but at the time she stepped out onto the ice, it was just her hugging the boards (aka, the cutest thing EVER).

Then she fell. Then her helmet came off.

Then she was done.

She came off crying, begging not to go back out there. A rink staffer came over, talked to her, and said he’d take her back out with him.

I sent her out there onto the ice crying icicles.

She was out there for about 2 minutes, slipped again, then gave up.

But I didn’t.

We came all this way, AND DAMMIT, SHE WAS GOING TO SKATE.

Thanks to the Baby Jeebus, the Lady in Charge saw her mid-meltdown, and agreed that her daddy could take her out onto the ice.

And that’s when it happened.

The mini anxiety-attack.

The huffing-crying. The buying her face into my neck. The every-excuse-in-the-book (“I’m hungry” and “It’s cold” and “It’s slippery”) ploy.

Then the sobbing started.

Then the begging and pleading started.

That’s when I made the decision that she was going to do it no matter what.

I’ve learned from my anxiety attacks and seeing her suffer through her own how to talk her down and find her calm again.

And that’s when I forced her to do something she didn’t want to do.

And she LOVED IT.

(PS – I promise that’s not fear on her face; it’s hiding a smile.)

Now I need someone to come force me to clean my bathroom.

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1 The Husband September 20, 2010 at 11:51 am

She got the skating ok but complained less and less the more she skated. However, once she got a puck on her stick and got to take real hits at it, including scoring on her daddy, her mood switched to “holy crap this is fun” and she was fine to stay out there longer.

Until we went to the next station where she lined up to do the drill with the other beginners, but fell and landed in a way her skate boot hit her hoo hah that hurt while simultaneously landing her hip on a puck. She has a bruise from the puck. That along with needing to pee ended her day after 20 minutes on the ice skating and playing hockey.

She skated most of the way back across the entire rink all by herself with me beside her, asking about 5000 questions along the trip. She did it quite naturally and let real smiles slip out afterwards.

A long comment, I know, but I wanted to add my 2 cents to one of the greatest moments of my life.
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2 Pauline September 20, 2010 at 11:54 am

I’m going to send all my un-schooling friends over to your blog – they don’t make their kids do anything.

High five to you guys. Not only did you get a priceless photo, make Dad proud but she also learned an important lesson. Perseverance.


3 Chibi Jeebs September 20, 2010 at 12:03 pm

Awesome post, awesome pic (although that face kinda looks like “Quit. Taking. My. Picture. MAWM.” to me… hehe), and awesome follow-up comment from Dad (sorry to hear about the, erm, hoo ha injury – NO FUN).
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4 MommyNamedApril September 20, 2010 at 12:34 pm

too cute. i’m also of the YOU WILL F-CKING DO THIS. camp. heh.
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5 Miss Grace September 20, 2010 at 1:29 pm

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6 Corrin September 20, 2010 at 1:32 pm

My parents were DO IT AND DO IT NOW people. I went to my first softball practice yelling and moping until my mom drop-kicked my ass out of the mini-van and I found out I was GOOD. Without her, I wouldn’t have played for the next 12 years.


7 Mommy on the Spot September 20, 2010 at 2:48 pm

My daugter gets anxious in certain situations. It’s a tricky line to respect her feelings and trying to encourage her to do new things.


8 Mandi Bone September 20, 2010 at 3:29 pm

The picture is beyond adorable.
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9 Wombat Central September 20, 2010 at 3:31 pm

I have to drag both my kids to most things–especially my son. He’s not a “try new things” kinda guy, so I totally get where you were coming from. If I paid good money to send them to something, they WILL get out there and try it! 🙂
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10 Tara R. September 20, 2010 at 5:56 pm

See, momma does know best.

That is the cutest pic of Anna and Patrick! Christmas cards?
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11 cindy w September 20, 2010 at 6:11 pm

That’s awesome. And a great pic too. I have a feeling I’m going to have to push Catie the same way when she’s older.


12 Ali September 20, 2010 at 7:23 pm

I LOVE IT!! I am also the “You said you would do it so you have to follow through” mom. I am so glad to see parents “force” their kids to try new things. Pats on your back, Angie love!!


13 Val Payne September 20, 2010 at 11:48 pm

Great Parenting Guys!!!

As for the bathroom…….post a pic on your blog, maybe the internet fairies or Big Mama Oprah will clean it up for you.


14 Yo Mama September 21, 2010 at 12:58 am

First of all – Miss Grammer Nazi – 3rd para. – She “knew” not “new”.
Now about the bathroom – Get in there and clean it – I’m coming Wed.!!!

And to you, Patrick & Anna – Way to go! Sometime parents have to force their offspring to do something because they CAN, whether they want to or NOT! Life is scary sometimes. 😉 You all did well.


15 Colleen - Mommy Always Wins September 22, 2010 at 10:15 am

Cutest picture EVAR. And kudos to you for sticking to your guns – must have been hard!
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